My wife and I have several Jewish female friends in their mids who are still single. When any of them visit, our Shabbat talk inevitably turns to the people they are dating and how difficult it is to find a nice Jewish guy with whom to start a Jewish family and raise Jewish children. One unpartnered friend, a rabbi, actually flew to Israel for in vitro fertilization and is now pregnant. These Jewishly involved single women could have other options, but those aren’t sanctioned by the Jewish community. That’s a mistake. It is time to remove the stigma from dating and marrying non-Jewish men. The word “intermarriage” has been the convenient scapegoat for many of the ills in American Jewish life. Countless sermons have been wasted on this topic, and its specter has launched numerous fund-raising campaigns for institutions that usually have little clue on how to creatively adapt to a changing community. As a result, many of our Jewish leaders and even major philanthropists are finding that their grandchildren are not necessarily being raised Jewishly. But not every interfaith marriage is a threat to Jewish continuity.
When Jews and Christians Wed
Top definition. A Gentile girl or woman, especially one who has attracted a Jewish man. The term derives from the Hebrew word “sheketz”, meaning the flesh of an animal deemed taboo by the Torah.
Jdate, Online dating service catering to Jewish singles, is increasing in Mr. Coppola is one of a growing number of gentiles who have lately signed on to seem to come down to the old idea of the nice Jewish boy or girl.
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She is feared and desired. She is the symbol of a family’s failure and a culture’s dissolution. She is a courageous ally, a loyal fellow traveler, and a mother struggling for the survival of the same family and culture whose destruction she supposedly seeks. The gentile woman has been all these things and more to the Jewish people. Her almost mythic status has its roots in the dawn of Jewish history and repercussions that extend beyond our own time to shape the Jewish future. It also entails more baggage than any woman could possibly hope to carry.
Shiksa tells the stories of gentile women and women converts living in the Jewish community today, sharing insights from rabbis, Jewish feminists, educators and therapists.
What that much-hated Washington Post essay gets wrong about Jewish men
Rona Shulman and Thomas Lebreton had been together for six years and had two daughters before they decided to tie the knot. When they returned to Israel from France, where the ceremony was held, Rona and her two daughters received gas masks at the airport. Thomas did not. His family goes into a sealed a room and he stays outside?
Twice I’ve been in serious relationships with Jewish men who’ve said a woman dating a motorcycle-driving, leather-jacket wearing “bad boy”.
During his senior year, however, he falls in love with a non-Jewish woman. After serious thought and study, she converts and they marry. A few weeks after the couple has gotten settled, the phone rings in their home. We always go over the books on the last Saturday of the month. If your conversion follows years of marriage to a Jew, the rest of the family may be overjoyed and throw you a big party. Then again, your choice may utterly baffle them and leave them unsure about how to react to you.
Probably the most common offense against converts, usually committed without any malice, is the use of the words shiksa and shaygetz [a derogatory term for a non-Jewish man].
American Jews have been debating the impact of intermarriage for decades. Does intermarriage lead to assimilation and weaken the Jewish community? Or is it a way for a religion that traditionally does not seek converts to bring new people into the fold and, thereby, strengthen as well as diversify the Jewish community? The new Pew Research Center survey of U. Jews did not start this debate and certainly will not end it.
We wonder if the Nice Jewish Boy even exists, if matchmaking works, a non-Jewish-but-considering-conversion-maybe-eventually-woman.
Anne Hathaway, Drew Barrymore and now Rihanna better watch their backs. What do these women know, that these celebrity women are finally catching onto? Jewish men make the best husbands. There are many reasons swarms of girls flock to these Stars of David like lox on bagels. For one, they are the “chosen people. They are diligent and dedicated guys whose compassion and patience are rare finds in most men.
Reconsidering the Jewish American Princess
My year old college-graduate daughter has been dating a Catholic boy, also a college graduate since they met in high school. I am a regular Sabbath and holiday shul-goer, and we do at least try to observe in the house, although my wife does it mostly in deference to me. I want all the future generations of my line, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc. Seuss about two creatures walking through the prairie of Prax and bumping into each other.
They are going in opposite directions and neither of them is willing to make room to let the other pass. Spoiler alert: the whole world keeps going.
My year old college-graduate daughter has been dating a Catholic boy, also a college graduate since they met in high school. He’s a nice.
It was a Sunday morning, the third or fourth time I slept over. I woke up to the feeling of his hands running through my hair, like a novice hairdresser procrastinating making the first cut. I opened my eyes and saw the numbers on the digital clock blinking I closed my eyes. His hands combed urgently through my hair. His breath quickened. I felt his heart slamming, timpani-like, against my shoulder blade. Suddenly fully awake, I braced for a bombshell.
No more dating non-Jews. Time to literally kiss non-Jews goodbye. But I was wrong, wrong by a mile of foreskins.
The real reason for high Jewish intermarriage rates
All marriages are mixed marriages. Catholics know this. It does not matter if both partners are committed Roman Catholics, were even raised in the same church, attended the same catechism classes in the same dank basement, were confirmed on the same day by the same bishop and matriculated at the same Catholic college. Among Catholic couples you may still find that one prefers this kind of Mass and one that kind, one adores the current pope and the other loathes him.
A Gentile girl or woman, especially one who has attracted a Jewish man. A term used by the non-binary/genderqueer community as an alternative to girl/boy.
Aug 24 4 Elul Torah Portion. We raised our children in a home that observed all the major Jewish holidays. I made our children aware of their culture and heritage. Our son was bar mitzvahed and attended Hebrew school for five years. His friends were all Jewish as he grew up, and he attended March of the Living. He is the last Jewish male in our family, since my one and only cousin is a female and I am an only child. If he has no Jewish sons, then our family line will die.
Now he has a non-Jewish girlfriend and they are getting serious. He has the support of all her friends who are not Jewish. I have made my feelings of opposition known. My wife says that if we are not careful we will lose him as a son, and that I should go easy on my remarks and actions. It is the most deeply-engrained cultural difference between Jews and non-Jews. There’s a video put out by the Reform Movement of America, a real-life documentary depicting a series of group therapy sessions for intermarried couples, designed to help them deal with the unique issues of intermarriage.